I honestly don't know how people get married today. We live in a ME society and the spin is "it's not my fault!" Look what you did to ME! I want out! You were different when we just lived together! You were nice and cared and you listened to me. We connected...
I can tell you how my wife and I have lasted through the twenty-some years. Three things: God, commitment and our deep love. In that order. When God came in second or third place...life became a series of "dissociated episodes." Marriage ain't like all those romantic movies we grew up with. It's a willingness to die to yourself for the other person. Sometimes on a daily basis. It isn't about YOUR needs anymore. You are a team now. God being the focus point. All eyes and hearts on Him first. In my humble opinion, it is the only way you don't bail out of marriage. It's not always roses but when you find your true companion, it's the best! There is no "perfect person." Soul mates reads well in novels. Why should we stay with each other then? They say "the grass is always greener on the other side" and it probably is for a moment, without God at the top of the summit...
A friend and and I wrote a song about getting married many years ago and it still holds up. And we both still believe it.
Standing In The Son
Man is sometimes called to live alone,
but loneliness is hard for one to carry.
Most need someone to help them make a home,
for their hearts won't be complete until they marry.
Yet, I've seen so many promises get broken,
when the dreams don't always turn out like they're planed.
And a love that started out to be a fortress
slowly crumbles like a castle made of sand.
So let's build our lives upon the Rock
and the wind and rains can come.
Then our love will not be shaken
we'll be standing in the Son
Yes, we'll build our lives upon the Rock
and the wind and rains can come.
Then our love will not be shaken
because in His eyes we're one.
Some women dream of havin' one to care for,
for caring is a word they understand.
Responding to the one their love was meant for,
as both hearts are fashioned by their Master's hand.
So they'll walk this life together
and follow where He leads them hand in hands.
And as they reach, the summit of their years,
they'll look back to the day it all began.
Man is sometimes called to live alone,
but loneliness is hard for one to carry.
Most need someone to help them make a home,
for their hearts won't be complete until they marry.
So let's build our lives upon the Rock
and the wind and rains can come.
Then our love will not be shaken
we'll be standing in the Son
Yes, we'll build our lives upon the Rock
and the wind and rains can come.
Then our love will not be shaken
because in His eyes, in His eyes, we're one.
.....Standing in the Son
Words & Music by Richard Souther & Peter York
©1987 Birdwing Music.
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